I have been crying for two days - hopefully this is a more proactive way to deal with the stress I am feeling....
I have been a LLL member for years - first time I have posted on here. I have been researching past threads - found "convincing dh" full of great stuff.
DS is 3 1/2. Husband started mentioning weaning around age 2. In beginning, dh was biggest supporter. He was disappointed when he couldn't attend LLL meetings, etc. He still talks to pregnant women and advocates bf. Anyway, we have problems in our marriage - I agree with the member who mentioned sometimes bf is used as a scapegoat.
Anyway, since this has been an ongoing issue, I feel I have done everything I can do to talk to dh. Other than attend a LLL conference - planning to go in May - don't know if we can survive that long. This is an issue that raises its ugly head in varying degrees of intensity. DH is never "ok" with ds "still" nursing, but sometimes he is more tolerant. He rarely witnesses it -
I am looking for a marriage counselor that will be supportive of "extended" (hate that word in its connotation) bf. Hard to find someone.
I never planned to bf this long. DS nurses first thing in morning and last thing at night. That is about it. He has been night-weaned for almost two years. But it is still important to both of us - I am sick at someone else trying to force us to stop. DH is starting to "talk" to DS about it - I am worried about the effects there.
DD is 20 months old. Can't imagine the sibling rivalry issues that might arise if son is forced to wean. Oh, in my husband's last tirade on this (just before going out of town for a few days) - he said he want ds weaned now and dd weaned by age 2. The atmosphere in our house is being affected - while this is not the root problem, I am worried that it could be a catalyst for negative changes.
I realize I am rambling - I am sincerely hoping to find some kind of answer to help. I know my husband will get over his negative feelings as time goes by and the children are weaned - whereas if I am "forced" ( I realize that nobody can "force" me, but I am not sure about the lack of peace in our house or the effects of my husband making son feel awkward), I am afraid I will never get over feeling bitter.
I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this. Thanks.
(I am not always sure of abbreviations used- hope I am using them correctly - dh, bump, etc. Someone posted a page with explanations but it is no longer a valid address. If there is a new page, I'd love to look at it.)