(PS Have you tried posting your solids questions in the SOLIDS forum? You may get more answers here.)
"update: I gave the cereal BM mix last night and I am not sure he is ready or that its going to help. he took it okay but then had 2 episodes during the night (I fed him early evening like 4:30 pm) and then he was gurgling up milk this morning (all normal for him) so at this point I am not sure I want to keep pushing cereal on him....I don't know if you need to give a few feedings to see a difference or not?? but I am not sure he is ready and I just might wait unless I hear some better information or check your links and find something on there ...I am just not sure what to do at this point...."
It sounds like you all are having a very tough time. I'm so sorry to hear this. When a child is diagnosed with reflux it can be very hard. Hang in there!
Wanted to share this bit of info about reflux...
"It may be tempting to consider another method of feeding for a baby with reflux in hopes that the symptoms will improve. Remember, reflux is a medical condition, not a feeding problem. In most cases, time will improve baby's reflux. Continuing to breastfeed provides many benefits to the baby and the mother by way of improved health, development, and most importantly, a strong bond that can help get you both through this difficult time. "
Sometimes if baby is laying on their left side feedings are a bit better. The cradle hold keeps a baby at a nice 30-40 degree angle and may help with feedings. Would nursing/feeding upright in a sling be any helpful?
You mentioned your ped gave you a prx... any chance the dosage might need to be adjusted because of a recent growth spurt?
Otherwise, the info you received on when to start solids from the other mammas is correct. Many times, starting solids can be confusing with the different information out there. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests starting solids at *about* the first half of a baby's life. Starting solids is often thought of as just an introduction to solids (or just some fun for babies), not a replacement for breastmilk.
That said, there are also some "sign of readiness" that a baby generally shows they are ready...
... is at least five to six months old
... can sit up, with support.... head and neck control
... tongue thrust is gone
... is showing distinct interest in other people's food
... can reach for and maybe try to taste or eat-food
Hopefully this difficult period will end soon!