Re: Was nightweaning a disaster for anyone else?
I had to do the nightweaning seperately from the stopping nursing to sleep. I think I stopped nursing to sleep first and then once we had htat down I did the nightweaning.
For nursing to sleep I started telling Nora that I would sing Twinkle Twinkle 3 times and then no more milk. I think it helped that a) she knew it was coming so it wasn't a surprise when I suddenly took my boob out of her mouth and b) she had a countdown so she was being reminded that it was coming. I'd sing it once, say "two more times then no more milk", sing again, say "ok one more time and then no more milk," sing again and say, "ok that's all. I sang twinkle twinkle 3 times and now no more milk." Sometimes she'd get upset and sometimes she wouldnt', but after doing it that way consistently she wouldn't fuss for too long even when she did get upset because she knew it wouldn't do any good.
It helped me because I could speed up or slow down the song if it was getting to me or if I thought she needed a few more seconds. I was pregnant too and I think it also helped me to deal with the pain and irritation to know that there was a definite ending point and it was coming soon (like when I finished the song).
Good luck, I know it's hard, but you can do this.
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