Okay, so I realize this is going to be an extremely open ended post, but I have a ton of questions, and I apologize in advance, I am cursed with wordiness! I have been lucky that we saved enough for me to stay home this long (DS is three months as of yesterday), and due to certain circumstances, I am faced with the reality that no matter how much we scrounge and save, I have to go back to work soon, even if just a few days a week. I just feel so overwhelmed, I am young, a first time mom, and because of all of my friends with children, NONE BFed past the first week except one (due to my encouragement! Her DD was born right after my DS), and she is a SAHM. Basically, I don't have anyone to go to advice for! So, for the questions...
I have been looking at all kinds of daycares, both in home and a "business" kind (I don't know what the proper word is), and I lean more towards an in home daycare, I think I would just feel more comfortable. I have found one that is affordable, the woman is a mother herself, CPR, SIDS certified, registered with the state, and close to home. But I have heard enough horror stories as well. I know to get references and to look at a bunch before a decision, but maybe I am missing something important?
Also, I have only pumped ONCE this entire three months, in the beginning when I had engorgement problems. I have been reading through alot of the posts, both in this section and the milk storage, but I am still a bit clueless as to a sensible way to pump enough, my DS eats ALL the time! I have learned to walk and nurse, as I am also chasing around two puppies, and trying to take care of the house, etc. It is probably quite comical if I step out of it. But on the rare occasion that he does get a bottle of formula (i know, i know ) he will eat about 6 to 8 ounces, and then nurse for 20-30 minutes not even 20 minutes after the bottle!
And finally, the THOUGHT of someone else spending that much time with DS without me is truthfully HEARTBREAKING. So I guess any type of advice, encouragement, personal stories, etc would be extremely appreciated.