I got that comment a lot too ... "Look at her watching you eat ... she's starving!" But my baby also watches me put on make-up with the same intensity ... does that mean she's dying to try mascara? I would be very firm with your grandmother about your wishes. Stress to her that you really appreciate how much love and concern she has for your little one, but it is vital she respect your wishes as the mom. Maybe add that your doctor insists that your baby not be given anything but breast milk until 6 months (and even if your doc didn't say this, you could be referring to any of the multitudes of docs that do ... Dr. William Sears, Dr. Jay Gordon, etc ... not to mention the World Health Organization, UNICEF, the US Department of Health & Human Services, American Academy of Pediatrics, American Academy of Family Physicians, etc, etc). It should be more difficult to argue with that!
Originally Posted by mom2sarvagnya
kellymom's web site has great ideas to include your little one in meal times without risking their well being by giving solids too early ...
What if my 4-5 month old seems developmentally ready for solids?
Four- to five-month-old babies are sometimes very eager to participate at mealtime, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they are ready to eat solids - more often it's just the normal developmental urge to do what everyone else is doing. Research studies tell us that there are many health advantages to delaying solids for about 6 months for all babies, not just the babies who are not yet interested in mealtime.
There are a number of things you can do to let baby participate in mealtimes without starting solids:
Let baby sit with the family at mealtime - in a lap, booster seat or high chair.
Give baby a cup of water or expressed milk. Your baby can entertain himself at mealtime while learning to use a cup. 1-3 ounces of water in the cup should be plenty (often for the entire day). Many moms choose to use only water or a small amount of breastmilk to avoid wasting the "liquid gold" while baby learns to use the cup.
Offer baby sips of water from your cup or straw. Even if baby hasn't figured out how to use a straw yet, you can put your straw in water, block the top end of the straw with your finger to trap a little water in the straw, then let baby drink the water from the lower end of the straw (unblock the top end once it's in baby's mouth).
Offer baby spoons, cups, bowls and other baby-safe eating utensils to play with during mealtime.
Give baby an ice cube (if it's a baby-safe size & shape) or ice chips to play with.
Offer baby a momsicle (popsicle made from breastmilk) or slushy frozen breastmilk to eat with a spoon.
Maybe print out this page and show it to her:
Why Delay Solids?
It points out some very serious arguments for delaying solids ... allergies, anemia, maintaining your milk supply, baby's immature digestive system, and on and on. They also have a great section on dealing with criticism ... some comments you could tailor to fit your situation:
"I respect your opinion and value your advice, but I have thought this out carefully and done a lot of research, and my mind is made up. I will be happy to respect your opinion and listen to what you have to say, but you have to respect my decision--and it is MY decision."
The "sandwich" technique sometimes works:
Say something complimentary first: "I'm so glad you are here to be with my children; Having a loving grandma like you is so important; You are such a wonderful grandma, just like I knew you would be."
Then make the point you are trying to make: "It really upsets me when you criticize my choice and my pediatrician's recommendation to breastfeed to the degree that I feel I might start to avoid visiting with you."
Then say something nice again: "That would make me sad because I know you love the children and I want them to have you in their life because you are so special."