Sorry, this is a long one...
I have been feeling discouraged lately because I am trying to get my dd to nap without me (holding her or laying beside her.) She's 5 months old. I am also trying to get her in her crib for the first 2-3 hours of the night before I go to bed so I can have a little time with my husband. The problem with naps is that if I do get her down, she'll only sleep for a grand total of 30-45 minutes.
At night she'll sleep about an hour or a little longer, if I'm lucky, after I put her down in her crib.
We bedshare and she nurses about every two hours all night long. It's not that bad...I'm only half awake and I've been really enjoying the co-sleeping other than the laying too long on one side problem.
Anyway, every sleep book I read says that nursing and rocking to sleep, whether at bedtime or in the middle of the night, will cause a sleep association and she will NEED these actions anytime she awakens from a sleep cycle.
I like nursing her to sleep. Won't there come a time when she will naturally sleep longer without my help or not need to nurse every 2 hours at night?? It seems like nursing to sleep is a natural thing to do, so why would it be ruining her naps because she can't "self-sooth" Does the self-soothing come in time as they mature or am I creating a "crutch" for my LO? I love my BF relationship with my dd and I hate that I have limit when I use nursing for comfort. Maybe I'm asking too much.
Plus, I have a hard time believing that every baby who is rocked to sleep needs this to go back to sleep each time he or she briefly awakens from a sleep cycle. Thoughts?