Re: possible to first time breastfeed @ 12 mo??
Hi Momma!!!! Those are awesome thoughts to have! How cool would that be to have your baby finally nurse from your breast after a whole year of pumping?
First of all, out of curiousity is she able to latch on at all now even though she is missing the roof of her mouth? My first thought is to put her to breast as much as possible NOW using warm baths, cuddles, co-sleeping, rocking, etc. Even if she doesn't latch on just to have her associate the breast with good warm thoughts. And if she does latch on, and even if she doesn't suckle correctly that's okay. You will still have that bonding time.
After a year you could possibly demonstrate to her how to open wide and latch on. You never know!!! Keep us posted on this, sounds like you have an amazing baby who is so lucky to have a momma like you.
Also, have you attended a LLL meeting? There are many women who go that are exclusive pumpers- you can get a lot of support through there.