just a clarification to my post. I did not wean my dd at day, but from night nursing. In other words I didn't just move her to another room and let her cry it out or cut night nursing cold turkey. I was sympathetic to the fact that she had become accustomed to nursing at night but recognized this was not good for her or me and gradually cut down night nursings to once every three hours, which allowed me to get the sleep I needed in order to not be cranky and tired and resent nursing and what my dh does or does not do. I actually tandem nurse now. My 2 1/2 year old nurses 5 times a in 24 hours and I have an exclusively bf 7 month old. Not all toddlers will make the decision themselves to sleep at night and it is not wrong for you to make the decision that is best for your health and their health for them. Indefinite cosleeping doesnt work for all children either. Some children lreally sleep better separated from their parents. Some really sleep better near their parents. Every one is different.