I read through the forums a bit and didn't see any Daddy's on here though Im sure I'm not the first. This last Tuesday my wife gave birth to our beautiful baby girl (today being Saturday). Our baby is happy and healthy, nursed well the first night in the delivery room and once or twice after in the recovery room.
This was when we started developing problems. She started latching on and sucking three or four times, stopping and not starting back up. We tried tickling her chin, lifting her elbow, pulling her off and getting her re-latch all to no avail. We brought her home Thursday and tried to breast feed several more times from home with very little success.
My wife has taken this very hard, and I feel awful about it. We finally had to bottle feed her because she hadn't really eaten at all in quite some time. I am bottle feeding her so she doesn't associate bottles with mom, only with dad. We are using the slowest flow tips we could find and we still try to breast feed her each time before we give her the bottle.
With all the trying my wifes nipples have become very sore, both are cracked and have some scabs. Her breasts didn't start to firm up and engorged until last night though they still aren't as firm as expected. We have managed to get some breast milk out, what we have gotten out I have give to our daughter with a bottle. This morning when we tried to pump her nipples started to bleed so we were getting a lot of blood in the milk.
We have been treating her nipples with Lanolin and non stick pads.
We are going to continue trying to breast feed but this has become very very hard on my wife. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.