Re: Frustrated and confused...
If you think it might help, you could show your husband this great list of benefits that breastfeeding in the second year has for both mom AND baby. Also, you may want to make it very clear that weaning is just not something that happens instantly, especially if baby still night nurses. And that he may have to step up and start doing a lot more work if he wants that to happen. For example, my daughter has never taken cow milk from me, even now that she's weaned. She just won't do it. She'll drink it at daycare and from my husband, though.
I had great success using the Dr. Jay Gordon method for night weaning. It helped to make my husband read this article because it does talk about the need that babies have to nurse and the fact that if baby isn't ready it isn't good to force them. But there is a well-laid out plan in there for systematically night weaning. I didn't follow his timeline exactly, it took us much longer than his 10 days but it was effective in the long run. Be prepared that if you do night wean, illnesses and teething and things like that might cause baby to start waking and needing to nurse again and you may have to start over.
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