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    Default Doctor says we should give it up

    I have been struggling to BF my daughter since I went back to work when she was 2 months old. I know everyone says supply can be brought back up, but it just isn't happening. I pump every 2.5-3 hours at work, and then nurse her at home every 3 hours. When she's done with me she usually has a 2-4 oz bottle of formula too. She takes formula when I'm at work, since I never pump more that 4 oz at work. All day. From both sides. I'm taking nine 610 mg capsules a day of fenugreek, I am eating oatmeal every day, and then force feeding myself (I have no appetite since I had the baby) the rest of the day. I am so stressed out about all of it, and other things that I can't sleep at night, and now she wakes up at night for feedings too, so the little sleep I was getting is even less now. I have 2 other kids and I'm a single mom, so sometimes if she's sleeping, I wind up missing a feeding and forget to pump then I freak out when we go for 6 or 7 hours between. I don't know what to do anymore. If anyone has any other suggestions, please let me know.

    Also, I just started using a new, much better pump yesterday. Anyone have any idea how long it might take to tell if it's helping?
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    Default Re: Doctor says we should give it up

    Oh mama...I remember your post from before about all of this.

    As for the pump, it should probably take a couple days I would imagine.

    I don't know what to tell you as far as the supply. I know that stress is one big inhibitor but it sounds like you have so much on your plate that I can imagine it is hard NOT to stress! As much as you can, try to take a couple deep breaths.

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    Default Re: Doctor says we should give it up

    Realistically I know you must know stress is your biggest enemy right now -

    Having said that I have a couple questions?

    Have you been in touch with a LLL leader?
    how do you know your supply is low? (other than pump output)
    How much does baby nurse when you're home?
    How much formula does baby get?

    have you seen this pumping resource?

    how old is baby?
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*number3 View Post
    Realistically I know you must know stress is your biggest enemy right now -

    Having said that I have a couple questions?

    Have you been in touch with a LLL leader?
    how do you know your supply is low? (other than pump output)
    How much does baby nurse when you're home?
    How much formula does baby get?

    have you seen this pumping resource?

    how old is baby?
    I've tried several times to contact a leader but the three in my area are apparently never available. I got no answers at 2 of them each time, and whenever I left a message I never heard back. Other than pumping output, I know it's low because my daughter is never satisfied when she's done. She has needed a bottle of formula after every feeding for the last couple weeks. She's eating at home about every 3 hours, for 5-7 minutes on each side. After that she has a 2-4 oz bottle of forumla also. Then she has 1 4oz bottle of BM during the day at home with dad, and after that it's usually one or 2 6oz bottles of it. She's 18 weeks old now. We were at the doctor yesterday, and she basically said everything I wrote is what's wrong-too much stress, not enough sleep, not eating enough. I don't know how to de-stress though-I'm a single mom with 3 kids, no help and a really low income. Stress is like my middle name. We were doing okay until about 2 weeks ago. I was pumping between 8 and 12 oz a day at work. Now I'm lucky to get 4. I know I shouldn't base anything on pump output, but that's a pretty drastic drop. Sorry to go on and on, I figure the more info I can give the more suggestions people might have.
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    Default Re: Doctor says we should give it up

    I know that feeling of sinking when you can't pump enough for LO. You're doing all the right things I imagine as well that stress plays a part in it. Just please remember that you're going the best you can, LO is getting great mommy's milk even if you have to suppliment, we all support you and your efforts! Keep doing what you're doing and try to not feel that it has to be all or nothing at this point, I think in your case that's counterproductive.

    I hope the new pump helps! keep it up mama!
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    Default Re: Doctor says we should give it up

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*Jenna562 View Post
    I know that feeling of sinking when you can't pump enough for LO. You're doing all the right things I imagine as well that stress plays a part in it. Just please remember that you're going the best you can, LO is getting great mommy's milk even if you have to suppliment, we all support you and your efforts! Keep doing what you're doing and try to not feel that it has to be all or nothing at this point, I think in your case that's counterproductive.

    I hope the new pump helps! keep it up mama!
    Also wanted to add here... I notice a significant drop in my pump output depending on where I'm at in my menstrual cycle. Just before AF is getting ready to visit, and usually during the first few days, the amount I can pump really drops. Just wanted to throw this out there just in case AF could be playing a factor for you.

    Hugs mama... you're doing the best you can! I can totally relate to you, as I have struggled being able to pump enough since I came back to work when my LO was 14 weeks old. We have had to supplement some with formula, but I always remind myself that we're doing the best we can, and that's all we can do. Give yourself a break, mama, and try not to worry so much!

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