I am so fed up right now, so this is a huge rant!
I have to go back to work seven weeks on wednesday, and I'm trying my very hardest to get Lilly to take a bottle, doing it while she's not too hungry, not pushing it on her and being really gentle etc. So, she's been doing ok with the sleepy feeds and taking it, but not while she's awake. Yesterday I let my partner feed her and it went really well. So, I thought, how about giving it a go again today on a less sleepy feed. He took the bottle, and I was upstairs putting some laundry away. I heard her giving her "no, I definitely DO NOT WANT IT" noise (believe me, it was loud and clear), and I had to tell him THREE TIMES to stop it. SO, that's now set us back for at least three weeks with the bottle feeding. I'm so upset and angry at him.
I just know that when I go back to work, he is not going to help me one bit. He never gets up on time for work anyway, and I've been gently putting it to him that he's going to have to get up early to dress lilly after i've done her first feed in the morning so I can get ready for work. Believe me, he is either totally not listening to what i've said, or ignoring me.
I'm doing my best and breaking my back to feed our baby, and it's only through luck that she actually sleeps through the night. I think I would have a nervous breakdown if she didn't!
I do most of (85%) the housework, pretty much all of the cooking and the shopping. He hasn't ironed a shirt since I went on maternity leave, and, quite frankly I am becoming very resentful of how ungrateful he is. I don't want a round of applause, just a hug and a thank you every so often would do.
At the weekends, he stays in bed as long as he likes, and then whines about being tired, even though I'm up a good 3 hours before him! I don't know what he thinks I'm doing all day. At least while he is at work he gets to be with his friends and goes out for lunch etc.
He just doesn't realise that he really should take his cues from me, because I have to deal with the fall out if he doesn't. I know this all makes me sound so horrible, but it's just boiling away inside me, and I think we're going to have the biggest row fairly soon if he doesn't step up to it. I know he works hard during the week, and "wants a rest" (ie: 14 hours sleep- I am not joking) at the weekend, but maybe I want a rest too, and he doesn't realise that with a 17 week old baby, it's really hard.
I'm so sorry ladies for being such a moaner, but I honestly have no-one else to talk to about this, so all I can do is write this on here.
PS. The families are pretty dire too, but you must be bored of this by now