Re: Fast let-down . . . how to manage this?
I guess the good news at this point is that they usually get to where they just gulp and deal with a fast letdown as they get older. That being said, you have to figure out something that works for you now. Have you tried laying all the way on your back with her on top of you like is shown in the link the pp posted? Have you tried a sidelying position? Some moms find that babies are able to let some of the excess milk dribble out of the side of their mouth this way. Have you looked into possible oversupply? Sometimes getting supply under control through block feeding can be helpful.
As for the sore side, I have one side that was not comfortable to nurse on for quite a few months. It is still the side that is more impacted by the hormonal changes of menstrating and pregnancy and hurts much more than the other side during those times. I wish I could offer a fix for that. For me, it just took time.
I've never heard about a baby getting pneunomia from asperating breastmilk. Your concern might be worth mentioning to your dr b/c he or she might be able to put your mind at ease at that. There are so many antibacterial properties to breastmilk I wouldn't think it likely.
BTW, the all consuming nature of feeding at this point won't last forever! You will both get things figured out over the next month or two and it will become SO much easier!
DS 1/2006 9 lb. 2 oz. 22 in.
DD 10/2008 8 lb, 2 oz. 20 in.