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    Default Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    I'm panicking ladies. My LO is 8 months old now. I wasn't planning on having #2 for at least another couple of years. AFV hasn't returned as of yet. I cosleep with my baby, nurse on demand, he barely eats any solids, I wouldn't think that I would even be fertile yet! Still I have taken precautions anyway, because like I said, I need more time before having my next baby. About a week ago, I started to feel like AFV might be returning. I was feeling a little crampy, bloated, etc...But as of today, nothing has happened, except, I think I feel like I did when I first found out I was pregnant with DS. I'm worried. I don't feel ready yet. Also, I am worried I that I won't be able to keep nursing DS for as long as I wanted to now. What if my milk dries up too much? Also, does anyone know how soon after giving birth to one baby it is considered more on the safe side to get pregnant with the next? I think I remember hearing once that they say you should wait at least a year? I would hate to be messing everything up for both children (potentially).
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    You might not be... Its normal to feel like that if you periods might be returning. I felt that way when I first found out I was pregnant as well.. but I also feel that way every month when AF shows up. Do you think you have ovulated? ( had lots of clear stretchy type cervical mucus?)
    Nursing is not always good birth control. I didn't co sleep but I did nurse on demand and my dd never had formula.. I got my peroid back 5 weeks post partum... and I still get one every month. dd is 15 months old and still breastfeeding.
    Can you take a test?
    I think they say optimal spacing between children ( for a woman's body) is at least 12 months apart but TONS of woman have children MUCH MUCH closer together with no problems whatsoever. I wouldn't worry to much. Lots of woman nurse all through pregnancies with no milk issues either. GL!

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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    I have had false alarms with AF several times since DD was born, starting around 6 months I believe. Still no sign of her and I'm pretty darn sure I'm not pg... so it could be your body just "revving up" for the big show, KWIM?
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    AF symptoms feel like this for me each month. Mine are not regular yet, and I can get these symptoms for weeks (yes, the longest I went was over three weeks with these symptoms) before AF finally arrived. Doctor said it was normal for a bf'ing woman. The hormones are trying to win each other over before deciding whether your body will have AF or not.

    But, if you are preggo, then that's what is meant to be! DD was 7 months when I got preggo with DS and I was terrified at first, but it was a blessing.
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    Don't panic. It is always very confusing not knowing whether your fertility has returned or not. Those symptoms could easily just be signs that your body is "thinking" about ovulating. It seems like frequently our bodies don't go from infertile to fertile like a light switch being turned on. Rather it's a more gradual process particularly if you are still nursing frequently. For example after my first baby I had spotting at 11 months and 13 months ppd with no ovulation. Then when I did see a lot of mucus which I thought might be ovulation I proceeded to get my first period a couple of days later rather than 2 weeks after that.

    I'm not sure about an optimum spacing of babies for a women's body. It probably depends a lot on your health, how the delivery of your first baby went, and other factors. If you are concerned about conceiving just yet you may want to start charting so you'll know for sure when your fertility does return. I know a lot of gals here use fertility friend which is an online resource. If you post in the fertility folder they could point you in the right direction.
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    i had the same symptoms for a few months before af arrived and thought the same exact thing, sounds like its prolly just af on the way. GL
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    I've met a fair amount of people like my sister and I that are 13-15 months apart in age. We turned out ok...and our mom was even in her 40s at the time.

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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    I went through that feeling from between 8-10 months when Af returned. If youa re pg, then it's meant to be and I am sure you will be as wonderful to two as you are one!
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    Default Re: Worried #2 might be on the way too soon

    Hello ladies. I just wanted to thank you all for your posts, ( a little late!) because my computer crashed shortly after I wrote this post. Luckily it was just a false alarm *phew*! AF wasn't even returning, just the hormonal fluctuations that you spoke of. Thank you all so much!
    First time mommy to *Sidney Patrick*! 1/13/08
    So lucky to be a SAHM for now
    Married to my DH *Matt*
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