I have an almost 4 week old son and we have been having BFing problems right from the start. He is my second, my first is my 7 year old daughter who I BFed for 14 months. I don't know where or how to start this post, if I confuse you, please forgive me.
I have large breasts 38D ( 34 D pre pregnancy) and a flat nipple on the left and a very tiny nipple on the right. My son unlike my daughter seems to have a tiny mouth which he hardly opens.
I struggled really hard the past four weeks. Used a nipple shield first(on the flat nipple side), then decided to stop using it since that seemed to hurt more. I also fed him pumped milk in a bottle but things were not improving so I decided to bear the pain and put him to my breast constantly. Took motrin when I thought I would completely lose it. I am happy to say that we finally are managing to BF. There are plenty of issues tho.
I still have a lot of pain. The initial latch on sometimes is excruciating enough for me to scream! Most times there is pain throughout the feed but not bad enough for me to scream. My nipple comes out looking badly shaped and I always seem to have sore nipples. I know it might be a bad latch but I just cannot seem to help that. I have watched the videos on Dr. Newman website, I have read as much as I can read on these forums and Kellymom so I dont know what I am doing wrong.
He gets very frustrated at the breast and never seems to open his mouth wide enough. I hold his head with one hand and I try to pry open his mouth with my nipple and then when I think it is the best he can do, I bring his mouth and my nipple together really fast. I know this probably sounds awful but this is what we have been doing so far.
Meanwhile I have several other health issues that are making it very tough to bear. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and Sjogrens disease. My pregnancy which was high risk was full of physical and emotional difficulties. Labor which everyone promised would be shorter was actually very very long and I pushed for more than an hr which did not help my already weak body. Thankfully we have been blessed with a healthy baby and I know it was worth every minute! I developed a UTI the first week which has not been resolved yet. My knees, my back, my wrists and my fingers are killing me due to my posture during BFing. I have trouble even walking now it is just getting worse.
I figured that nursing lying down would help but I am not able to master that either. He cannot seem to find my nipple and as always doesn't open his mouth wide enough. I did try it a few times but he ended up slurping my nipple in and that was no fun! Also nursing hurt a lot more than usual.
I know this post is all over the place...I don't even know what I am asking here.
I am trying really hard. I don't want to give up. My husband is so afraid that I am going to hurt my body even more and wants me to pump exclusively. I know that probably makes sense but I am so stubborn about wanting to try this but I also fear what he does and I know that I might be stupid to do this. I need to be healthy for DS. The thought of formula or pumping makes me cry tho.
Oh please help...am I doing this all wrong? I remember that with my daughter it became so easy and comfortable after a point tho I don't remember when. I loved BFing her but I didnt have the diseases then and was a lot younger and healthier.
I know a lot my issues will be solved if I can breastfeed lying down, what can I do to help that go smoother? I read that it is easier for large breasted women but I find that it is really tough.
I am meeting with a lactation consultant next week during my sons first month visit, the nurse practitioner is also a LC.