Re: Help! How to wean?
Sometimes, the best thing to do is to back off of the weaning thing for a little while. It can become a real issue and make the child cling even more to nursing. They can view it as very scary and threatening or like a "rejection" even though it's not. After a few weeks, you can always try again.
Also, maybe another feeding would be easier if this one if very important.
It's very important to replace the nursing session with something - I know you said she won't take a cup of milk. But sometimes the nursing is more about connection to mom and closeness. So, what if you did something totally different from nursing (no sitting around because that makes it very available and tempting), but an activity that she really likes and looks forward to? A very special food, playing outside with bubbles, etc.
Make sure she knows that by giving up the nursing session, she's not giving up her special time and bond with mom.
I would also like to say that a lot will change in the next few months, and it's entirely possible that she would cut out more nursings gradually on her own. Especially if you try the "don't offer, don't refuse" method accompanied by an attempt at distraction or replacement when she does ask.
My daughter was still nursing at 20 mos when I got pregnant with #2 and it was actually a blessing. It was easier for me to deal with her when I was exhausted and nauseous, and I knew she would be still and not destroy something for a few minutes. She pretty much stopped nursing when my milk supply dried up slowly in the last trimester, so it's been a really gradual and gentle weaning process.
So, I'd try the "don't offer, don't refuse" for a few weeks since she seems really resisting and reevaluate the situation for any progress.
Mom to Laura (3/1/06)