Re: 12mo eating problems Please Help!!
That sounds very typical 12 MO behavior. I highly doubt she is self-weaning, probably just going through a time of lots of milestones.
If she wants to self-feed then so be it. Many babies prefer to do it themselves from the beginning at 6 months! The more practice she gets the better she will be at it.
She's nursing 2 times during the day, and 2 times at night? If I were you I would try and get at least 2 more times in with her. Do you have an opportunity to get her into a dark/quiet room and see if you can get her to nurse? I always can get my 14 MO to nurse both before and after naps, then in the AM when he gets up and also going to bed.
We went through a time right around 12 months where I felt the same way that you did, weaning and no solids... but what do you know... he went back to nursing a lot more once he got some milestones out of the way.
Enjoy the independence your LO is giving with eating solids, it sounds as if you're doing a wonderful job with her.