Re: pregnant and nursing
I had to night wean my dd and stop nursing her to sleep because of the irritation it caused once I was pregnant. It didn't hurt for me (ouch, razors! poor you!!) but it caused an intense creepy sensation that got me really irritated and resentful.
I used the Dr. Jay Gordon method for nightweaning, though I haven't been very strict about it it is slowly but surely working for us. Here's a link:
For nursing to sleep I started a routine at night where I'd tell dd that I'm going to sing "Twinkle Twinkle" 3 times and then no more milk. Then I let her nurse and I sing- counting as I go "this is #2" "this is #3, after this no more milk" and at the end I say, "mommy sang twinkle twinkle 3 times and that's all. no more milk." She'll usually unlatch by herself, fuss for a minute or two and then settle down (I'll sing a different song to get her to sleep). This worked amazingly quickly for me and it's consistenlty worked whether I'm at home or visiting at my parents or wherever. She's been sick the last week, so I laid off for a day or two and she's now readjusting, but I think the technique works really well in general. In fact, now when I say it's time to go night night, she asks, "mommy sing twinkle twinkle?"
As far as naps go, I don't really have any advice. I work ft and still nurse her to sleep for naps on the weekend. Strangely, I don't have a problem nursing during the day, it's only at night.
Good luck to you, mama!
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