Re: small baby and dealing with criticism
The pump is definitely not an indication of how much milk you are producing, since your baby is much better at emptying your breast than a machine. It sounds like you probably know this, but your DH and MIL need to be informed. it will probably hurt your supply to stop nursing and go to exclusive bfing, not to mention the hassle and extra work it will mean for you.
The best way to tell that she is getting enough is to go by wet and dirty diapers. If your DH wants to get obsessive about it, you could buy a sensitive scale and try weighing dd after nursing session, though honestly I think it would just stress you out more. If your daughter is fine on milestones and seems to be having plenty of wet and dirty diapers she is probably fine. My daughter has also always been very very active and is on the small side- right around 5th percentile in weight ever since she was a month old. My doctor has never been concerned. Some babies are just small.
Do you still nurse at night? I know when I first went back to work, my dd started nursing very frequently at night and that, I think saved our breastfeeding relationship. It meant some adjustments for dh and I- cosleeping became a necessity- but we got through it and I'm still bfing my daughter at 22 months.
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