I am looking for suggestions on how to handle tantrums and how nursing fits into the situation. I have a 2 yr old daughter, who is adjusting to just having a brother come into the family 4wks ago. I am tandem nursing, but thought this was more a extended breastfeeding question than a tandem question, even though the two intertwine.
Ever since the new arrival my daughter started throwing temper tantrums and I am not sure how to handle it. I am trying to give her lots of attention and to spend time alone with her, but when she does have one she will always end up asking to nurse. I can't decide if I should honor the request or not. If I allow her to nurse will I be saying to throw a tantrum is o.k., or will I be helping her to deal with emotions that she is not old enough to handle?
Then I get really confused when the tantrum ends up being about nursing. How do I handle that, becuase usually I have already said that we were not going to nurse right then and she throws a tantrum. If I nurse her will I be backing down and not being consistent with my responses to her becuase I didn't follow through with my initial response?
Any suggestions or BTDT experiences would be most appreciated. TIA.