Re: Wean or not to wean?
I also disagree with bttrfli. When I went back to work my daughter started nursing a lot more at night as well. While she got bottles of breast milk and some formula during the day at day care, she still wanted and needed both the milk and the comfort she got from being near her mother. I needed it as well. It is a completely natural reaction, and a fairly common one with work-out-of-home mom and nursling pairs.
He is not just nursing out of habit, he is reconnecting with you- his mother- and he is still getting extremely valuable nutrition and immunities. If the only time you have to nurse together is at night, then there is no reason to wean- particularly if it's because someone is telling you he should be sleeping through the night.
If you were saying that it is driving you crazy and you can't take it anymore I might give you a different answer, but you sould like you are more concerned with what is going to happen down the road. I might also give you a different answer if you were still nursing diring the day. But if this is working for you right now, then I say continue.
I have recently stopped nursing my daughter to sleep (she's 22 months) and let me tell you it has been so much easier than I ever could have imagined. I think it is because I waited until she was ready (and I was ready, too). She is old enough now to understand when I set limits and learn to comply with them, rather than just thinking that I am refusing to comfort her and fill her belly.
I second the Jay Gordon recommendation and Elizabeth Pantley also has a great book called the No Cry Sleep Solution that I got a lot of great tips from.
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