My daughter is now 2 weeks old, and for the last week she has been fighting and screaming at the breast - but only at night. I went to see a LC yesterday and she suggested it could be because DD doesn't like "having the breast pushed in her face" and we did some back-to-basics, infant-led nursing. It worked beautifully - but of course, it was 2:30 in the afternoon, when DD normally nurses very well. The LC also suggested that I am waiting too long to feed her, and so she's frantic when she gets to the breast rather than relaxed.
Last night it progressed like this:
I woke up to DD snorting and rooting - not yet crying or flailing. So I picked her up and put her on my chest, and she found the nipple and nursed well for five minutes or so. Then she pulled off and fell asleep. I let her doze there for another few minutes, just in case she wanted to wake up and take the breast again. Then I lifted her to my shoulder to be burped (she tends to get gassy), which was also fine. She fell asleep there too, and I left her for a few minutes.
Suddenly she opened her eyes and started licking/rooting again, and throwing her head waaay back. Her legs started kicking and she was pushing herself away from my body. So I brought her down to my chest again to nurse just like before, but her whole body was so tense that I couldn't get her to even lie against me. She started wailing and bobbing her her up and down as if she was trying to latch on, but she was also kicking and flailing her arms, which get in the way of her mouth. Of course, she wasn't really opening her mouth anyway - just sticking her tongue out between her lips. She got more and more upset. After a few repeated attempts to calm her down (putting her back on my shoulder, taking her away from my breast, etc.) she finally managed to latch on, curled tensely around my boob clamped down hard, looking like someone was going to try to take it away from her. :/ Eventually she relaxed enough to drink normally.
She did this three times before she would fall asleep! Sometimes she even managed to get the breast in her mouth just fine, but was too busy screaming and bobbing to notice.
This is driving me crazy. A "feeding" session takes 1-3h like this, and of course it's right in the middle of the night. I am getting about 4h of sleep a night, in 1h stretches. :/ My husband is sleeping on the couch upstairs - because one of us might as well get sleep, right?
Any advice??? This is my first child, and I'm new to this... I won't give up but I'd love to know what I'm doing wrong.