Re: MIL twins in NICU
My son wasn't a preemie, or a twin, but he was in level 3 NICU. My heart goes out to your MIL -- what a scary and stressful situation...
I would just suggest that she get as much rest as possibly -- which is extremely difficult under the circumstances, so help from family and friends is vital. The more she can be relieved of having to worry about anything else, the more comfortable she can feel taking breaks to get fresh air and sleep and good nutrition, the better. It can be really hard to not be able to really touch your baby, especially when you are trying to pump, so being as near as possible, and keeping photographs of them with her when she is not beside them may help with milk letdown. If she is someone who is comfortable talking about her feelings, try to get her in touch with another mother who has been through something similar -- sort of a mentor she can ask questions of and vent to when needed. Ideally, a postpartum doula would be acquired -- she would be able to attend to mom's needs, offer support, etc.
I wish I had more to offer... Keep us updated on how they are all doing...and to all of you....
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.