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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*aprilsmagic View Post
    I find myself a lot angrier and frustrated with Ian, and I believe it stems from just how much he cried as a baby and how hard I worked to try to help him and he never responded. It was draining, and it still is. . ..
    I've been less responsive, even, to Katy and her needs b/c she cries all the time. I struggle with this a lot b/c I want to be there for her and take care of her, but sometimes it's like, and I've even said it out loud , I just don't care. Of course, I do care about her, but...Oh, it's so hard to explain.

    Does anyone with a high-needs child ever feel like others don't "get it"? I mean, there are babies that are needy and cry a lot. There are babies that are more "fussy" than others, but unless you truly have a high-needs baby I just don't think you can understand it. I know I had no idea before Katy was born...
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*ak411 View Post
    I've been less responsive, even, to Katy and her needs b/c she cries all the time. I struggle with this a lot b/c I want to be there for her and take care of her, but sometimes it's like, and I've even said it out loud , I just don't care. Of course, I do care about her, but...Oh, it's so hard to explain.

    Does anyone with a high-needs child ever feel like others don't "get it"? I mean, there are babies that are needy and cry a lot. There are babies that are more "fussy" than others, but unless you truly have a high-needs baby I just don't think you can understand it. I know I had no idea before Katy was born...


    Yep, no one gets it. And now that I've had 2, everyone (except dh, thank God) seems to blame it on ME.

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*moose View Post


    Yep, no one gets it. And now that I've had 2, everyone (except dh, thank God) seems to blame it on ME.
    I am so grateful Ally is as calm and agreeable as she is. I don't think I could handle two.

    I know what you mean about being blamed for it. Everyone seems to forget about Ally in the whole scheme of things and focuses on Katy and her neediness. I'm not sure how we could have gone so "right" with Ally, but so "wrong" with Katy.
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    dh and i always joke that our ds is always "fronting" for others. he becomes the perfect little angel when others are around and then once it's just us again, he gets really fussy. non of our friends, co-workers,...etc believe it when we say our ds can be pretty high needs b/c he never shows that side around them.

    also at home, when it's just us 2, sometimes i'll set him down with toys and go and do the dishes or what not,...he'll play happily, but once he catches a glimpse of me, all of sudden he starts whining and wanting to be picked up. and then when i do, he does that leaning down thing and suddenly is interested in everything down on the ground again. reeaaally works my arms.

    ...you are definitely not alone.

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    DS is the same way. If I am out of sight and earshot, he is usually pretty happy to play with Dad, Grandma, or even on his own! If he is aware of my presence, he cries to be picked up. But he doesn't want to sit and be held, he gets all squirmy!! I need to be playing with him, or sometimes he still gets fussy, and needs to be walked around...facing out, mind you, so he gets to see everything. Not sure why this is....he is 6.5 months, and has always been like this. When it comes to going to sleep, and going back to sleep, only mom will do, as of late. Correction, mom's boob he won't take any other form of soothing...he screams and arches his back. So I think it has something to do with mom, milk, and their general tendencies to meltdown for mom.

    When he does get fussy in front of others, like on an overnight family visit, I feel like they think it's our fault, though no one has ever said so out loud. I think they feel it's because of breastfeeding!
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