I'm in the middle of a rough patch. My LO is nearly 16 weeks and the technical aspects of breastfeeding have been fine. I'm just so emotionally and physically exhausted. My baby was 9lbs 9oz at birth - now about 16lbs at just over 3 months and she eats ALOT. Well she's on the boob alot. She's a comfort sucker. But she refuses to take a pacifier, and experiemented with her thumb for about two weeks before giving up. I was able to sometimes give her my pinky finger to suck on rather than my breast for a while but that doesn't actually free me from her and she's refusing it now anyway. I'm lucky if I get 2 hrs between 'feedings' during the day. She was doing pretty well at night 4-5 hrs then 2-3hrs. But I caught a cold then she caught a cold and now we're up 3-4 times a night. She's also not a napper. I cannot get more than power naps out of her during the day. No joke. A really good day is when she has 4 30min naps between 9am (when she wakes) and 10pm (ave time she'll go down for her first stretch of the night). I just feel like she's glued to me non stop. I've tried a sling - she HATES it. Does not like being squished. My partner tries to help a bit but he doesn't spend all day with her so he doesn't know her cues. As soon as she starts to fuss he assumes she's hungry and hands her back to me. Granted sometimes she is, but not always. (and he cannot try the finger trick because he's a smoker. He doesn't smoke in the house but it's still all over his hands so we don't want his fingers in her mouth). In total I maybe get a couple of 10-15 min breaks a day where he has her instead of me. I don't want to stop breastfeeding but I'm starting to desparately wish I could say 'so feed her!' when he hands her to me with 'she's hungry'. I have a pump but I generally only use it when I'm going out. She eats so often that I don't have the energy (or the milk at this point!) to pump during the short breaks between feedings. I'd like to go out more often, but it's difficult. No kidding in the past few months nearly all my close girlfriends have moved to the other side of the country. A few live an hour or two away and I try to see them when I can but it's hard. Ideally I'd like to get out of the house for 'me' time at least once a week! But it requires so much prep it's exhausting. I'm envious that my husband can still get a call up from his friends last minute and go out for the evening. I have to plan days in advance in order to pump. I know my issue is more of a lack of me time than a issue with breastfeeding, but I'm just so exhausted at trying to find me time when I have a baby attached to my boob 8-10 hours a day.