Re: 4 month old tongue thruster
You could also just say that you will under no circumstances feed solids to a baby who still has a tongue-thrust reflex, and that if feeding the child is so important, perhaps the parents would be better off finding a less careful caretaker.
It's pretty harsh, but why should you be made complicit in the torturing of this poor baby who isn't ready to eat?
I've been a nanny, just FYI, so I do put my money where my mouth is. When my employer asked if fewer hours would be okay, I said, "You mean you are going to spend more time with your kids? Why on earth would that be a problem for me?" And I meant it. It was less money, but it was better for the kids and no way would I stand in the way of that.
Hope I'm not coming off as too harsh, but you are not being forced to feed that baby. You can refuse, if you really feel it's wrong. I wouldn't suggest secretly not feeding the baby, but if you think the parents are asking you to do something damaging to the child, you can and should refuse and tell them they can find another caregiver if they want to.
Mommy to Juni 7 and Jas 5
Too lazy to use a crib, bottle-feed, wean, or pack school bags