I'm new here. This is my first post, although I have enjoyed reading the various resources LLLI has on its website.
Here's my situation. DS is 31 months and is still BFing before bed (not to sleep, but as part of his routine) and first thing in the morning. He's still in our room, in his own crib ('cot' if you live in the UK like us), but he moves into his own room this weekend. !! DH is assuming BF will stop about now. Any tips? thoughts? I'm not sure I'm ready! I doubt DS is ready. He loves his 'mommy milk' and almost never can be convinced to drink cow's milk. That's a main reason I BF beyond a year--he wouldn't take any other liquid! Not formula, not cow's milk, not a lot of water or juice. And from six months onwards, even if (as in the early days!) he was just having BM and pureed prunes or other fruit, he's been severely constipated and on various daily regimens of medication. (First Movicol, then lactulose and senna, then back at age two to Movicol, then increased amounts of Movicol, up to three sachets a day, then back to one sachet but adding back senna, etc. etc. argh!) Anyway, as a result of the constipation issues and the refusal to take other liquid, and the pain and suffering he went through for months and months, I kept BF. Every 2-3 hours through the night until he was 26 months old when DH had a little talk with him and he finally started sleeping through the night.....!
DS is our first, maybe our only (see my alias....!), and so I don't have a clue how to wean, especially a very bright and determined toddler. It was such a struggle to BF the first six months or so as he had reflux and would scream and arch away from me. Now it's a joy and very easy. We just have the two sessions each day, and if I'm out in the evening (on a rare date with DH or at an event), DS doesn't seem to mind that he misses his evening feed. So maybe it won't be so hard to drop the morning one. But how? How long is too long to BF? (Boy I bet I could get a lot of answers on that one!!!) DH has been supportive but it's clear that at this point he thinks it should be over. Here in the UK only a tiny percentage (like 7% or is it 17%?) of moms BF past six weeks, so not a lot of people to talk to about this one! Even the official guidelines here only ask for moms to BF for six months. If you're BF after a year, you get told by health officials 'But he doesn't need it anymore,' 'It's not doing him any good now', 'He isn't getting any nutritional benefit from BF', yada yada yada.
Anyway, at some point I have to wean. I talked to one friend who did extended breastfeeding, and she said that most toddlers seem to wean themselves at about 2 1/2 yo. So I thought, 'Okay, the end is in sight.' But he's now past that milestone, and just as enthusiastic as ever. DH is scared he will be BF at 5 or 15! I guess I've been waiting for him to stop, but he doesn't show any signs of stopping. Does weaning not happen with toddlers unless the mom initiates it?
Any thoughts gladly received!
Thanks for reading!