I'm sorry you are experiencing so much trouble! I can't help you with your bottle issues as I've never used one before, but my baby does have severe reflux (GERD), so I can help a little with my own experience. I know my husband also asked me about giving formula to "fix" our baby's problems ... most likely because this is the myth that people believe (that reflux can be helped with formula feeding or cereal thickened feeds). Both of these things have been proven to worsen (or certainly not improve) reflux. So my husband had all his friends telling him, "Just give her formula and put cereal in it to cure everything!" A really good source you may want to read to your hubby ... What can I do to minimize spitting up/reflux?, part of it is cited below:
Now Dh wants to try formula. I think he thinks it will "fix" everything. He spoke to a guy from work who's son had the same problem......Oh I forgot to mention that we are treating Ryder for Reflux.....and we also got a appt. with the GI dr on Monday--thank goodness for it!
Anyhow DH thinks it will cure him! Ia m so upset!! I know it won't help......we have always breastfed all of our kids. The twins did get supplemented with the high octane formula. Plus we always gave one bottle at night to Sky but now I thatg I don't need too I don't want to.
Reflux is less common in breastfed babies. In addition, breastfed babies with reflux have been shown to have shorter and fewer reflux episodes and less severe reflux at night than formula-fed babies. Breastfeeding is also best for babies with reflux because breastmilk leaves the stomach much faster (so there’s less time for it to back up into the esophagus) and is probably less irritating when it does come back up. The more relaxed your infant is, the less the reflux.
LLL's site says (see full page here):
"Studies have shown that formula-fed babies are more likely to exhibit symptoms of GERD than are breastfed infants. Weaning from the breast should not be regarded as a good solution for GERD. Non-thriving babies should be evaluated for underlying illness. In most cases, GERD can be handled through proper breastfeeding management, positioning, mother’s diet, and education. When these steps do not bring about relief, more extensive testing and other treatment options may need to be explored."
And also (see full page here):
"It may be tempting to consider another method of feeding for a baby with reflux in hopes that the symptoms will improve. Remember, reflux is a medical condition, not a feeding problem. In most cases, time will improve baby's reflux.
Continuing to breastfeed provides many benefits to the baby and the mother by way of improved health, development, and most importantly, a strong bond that can help get you both through this difficult time."