Re: Speeding up the Baby Led Solids Process?
That is insane. Your child isn't eating enough, so stop feeding her?
Keep nursing as often as she wants to nurse. You are giving her what she needs. Mother's milk is perfect nutrition for a little one.
I know you are concerned about getting her to eat other things. She probably will, when she is ready. Meanwhile, you should NOT cut out nursings, because right now that's all she's eating! She will still get some nutrition from nursing, even when you feel like she's getting nothing. And she'll still be getting the comfort and closeness she needs.
Okay, so what do you do if she won't eat? You may need to give her artificial human milk from the store, in a sippy cup. She is over a year old now, so she could also drink cow's milk or soy milk from a sippy cup, but if she's not willing to eat yet, the artificial human milk might be your best option. Well, second-best, actually. Best would be donor milk from soneone you know and trust who pumps and has extra.
Jasper (now 5 and a talented gymnast) didn't eat solids until he was TWO. I kid you not. We gave him things but he would just toy with them. By the time he was 1 1/2, he would eat maybe a teaspoon or two of diced pear or some other finger food in a day, but that was it. He didn't eat more than that until he was fully two years old. My in-laws were astonished by both how little he ate and how healthy he was on almost 100% mother's milk.
Once he was ready to eat, there was no turning back. He eats as much as a grown man some days, if it's hamburgers or baked macaroni and cheese I'm serving.
Which is to say, your little person will eat one day. It's possible there are sensory issues, either sensory issues which will go away in time or sensory issues which will persist. But forcing food will not change the sensory issues! Don't people at LLL meetings always say things like, "The most important thing is to get the baby the nutrition he needs"? Your specialist's plan doesn't sound like a good way to meet the child's needs, either for texture/taste OR for nutrition.
Get another opinion. Trust your heart. You have plenty of time to work out your child's sensory issues, if she has them. Meanwhile, she needs her mother, she needs to nurse, and she needs nutrition. You can give her at least the first two without any help. If you don't have enough milk for her, then you need to find another source -- donor milk or, if you can't find any, artificial human milk. Then you can work on the eating issues gradually, knowing that you are keeping her healthy and well-fed.
And for you. You are working hard and deserve it.
Mommy to Juni 7 and Jas 5
Too lazy to use a crib, bottle-feed, wean, or pack school bags