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    Unhappy Frustrated please help!

    I don't know where to begin except I need encouragement right now badly. Here's what is going on... My LO is just a little over 2 weeks and breastfeeding was going rather well other then the first couple of days of engorgement. The problems arose when I was diagnosed with carpal tunnel (had it in pregnancy) and then a sort of tendinitis that has come on after delivery. I was seen at the dr and he said it's not uncommon after pregnancy and it should subside in 3-4 weeks but in the mean time to wear braces both at night and during the day. If it doesn't clear up then I'm suppose to go back and they will administer steroid shots into the inflamed tendon but I still have a few weeks before I can go back. This has made it beyond frustrating while trying to breastfeed and get a good position. The brace makes it hard to hold her head and can't be comfortable for her AT ALL but without the brace I am in so much pain b/c it turns my wrist/thumb in just the right way to irritate it. To add to this problem I think I might have a plugged duct on the right breast (same as the bad hand) and I think that might be due to poor latching and positioning. I really don't know what to do. I'm having such a hard time caring for her and the frustration is just getting the best of me. We have had family in town so that hasn't helped much either but they are gone now thank goodness. I really feel at my wits end with breastfeeding and want to give up but i know I'll feel like a failure if I do quit b/c I had my heart set on this. I didn't expect the issue with my hands as I was told it would subside soon after birth but it has only gotten worse. I really feel that my daughter is sensing my frustrations also which saddens me. My husband goes back to work on Monday so it's me, myself, and I caring for her. I don't have a lot of support as we are military and far from family and friends so this site might be my saving grace right now. I told my husband I just want to go into the hospital and beg and plead with them to help me out since it's just he and I taking care of our daughter and I really don't want to start formula feeding. Right now I'm trying to follow the advice on how to care for a plugged duct but nursing on the bad side frequently is near impossible right now with the wrist. Please help!!! I seriously want to just give up as this is more stressful for me right now than I expected plus adding the baby blues just really is making me a total mess. Sorry if this is a ramble but I'm a bit frustrated right now as you can tell. Thanks for listening maybe someone will have some sound advice for me!!!!

    ~Sarah

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    Update:

    Things are going a bit better with my wrist. I'm still trying to nurse the possibly plugged duct. Our nursing has went very well despite it all. I think I was just so tired and exhausted from having family in town and not resting like I should (I was up and going as soon as I was released from the hospital b/c I felt so good but it all has caught up with me). I have rested a lot yesterday and today with baby and my husband is doing all the housework and waiting on me hand and foot. I plan on resting more this week also. I just wanted to update y'all!!! Breastfeeding over all has been going amazing until the added tid bits but I think it will clear up the more I rest my mind. Frustration only makes it worse. Oh yeah, Dh is on his way to get me the best friend nursing pillow. I have a boppy but I"m not loving it for nursing really. So that should help too. Thanks for the support!
    Last edited by Sarah26; May 18th, 2008 at 11:58 AM. Reason: update

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    I'm also a new mom going through the trials of BF for the first time. I just want to tell you that you are doing a great job and to try and work through these problems. I cannot offer you any advice since I'm also new at this but I take each day one at a time. I am also away from my family and it is so hard to keep pressing on through this difficult time. I come to this website to read words of encouragement and I am going to go to my first LLL meeting on Tuesday. I encourage you to go to a local meeting and find support. My husband is also returning to work on Monday and I'm so scared about being by myself with my newborn since he is such a great help. You are such a great mom for sticking to BF even through all these difficulties. All I have had is extreme nipple soreness and it was very hard to work through it. I wanted to give up everyday but I just couldn't bring myself to giving my LO formula. When I'm at the end of my rope and need a break I will nurse on one breast and then top my LO off with a bottle of BM which really helped me through my difficult time. My LO is 3 weeks old tomorrow and they say not to introduce a bottle until around 4 weeks but my LO always prefers the breast rather than the bottle so there is no nipple confusion. This might help you if you need a break from BF to help you continue on. Just take it one day at a time. BF does get better, and I never thought that I would say that!!! Try to enjoy your time with your LO everyday!!

    Mom to Collin Matthew born 4-27-08, 7lbs. 11ozs.

    Breastfeeding for 3 weeks now!! Never thought I would make it through week 1!!!

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    I would NOT recommend introducing a bottle a two weeks especially if you are already experiencing issues. Nipple confusion is real and while it may not happen to every child, it's a real risk and it will do absolutely nothing but further frustrate the both of you if it occurs.

    If you are having trouble holding the baby due to braces, I would work on finding positions you can successfully nurse "hands free" or where all you are having to hold and support is your own breast and not the weight of your child. Since most of us are on the couch for the 1st 6weeks straight and have to learn to get things done while feeding, it can be done with the help of pillows. Are you using a Boppy pillow or a breast friend? Using my Boppy, the corner end of the couch and the football hold, I could get my baby into position on my breast fairly early and then eat my meals off of a TV tray in front of me. SO I would work on finding a position like this and even in you have to help the baby latch or hold your breast up to feed, it will be easier than holding the baby's head or whole body. That should provide you some physical relief. HTH!

    Way too lazy for formula

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    I would also NOT recommend introducing a bottle just yet.

    What I would suggest is using a side laying position where you lay on the bed on your side and your little one nurses from the bottom breast. You then roll over and put her on your other side and offer the other breast. Once she is latched this position can be quite "hands free" (I use to find my back a little at first, so I would recommend putting a pillow between your knees if you have back issues). Also, the breastfeeding pillows are fantastic. I have a "breast friend" that straps around your waist so it stays in place. It lines the baby up perfectly so you can simply use your arm to make sure she doesn't roll. If you don't have a breastfeeding pillow, you can situate yourself comfortably on a couch/chair and get a foot stool or use the coffee table to put your feet on (to bring your knees up - creating a "v" with your torso and thighs). Then place any pillow in the bottom of the "v" and lay your baby on that. This way, your legs are securing your pillow and you can go hands free.

    Don't give up mama! You're doing great!
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    Default Re: Frustrated please help!

    I have carpal tunnel that came on during month 4 of my pregnancy. Both hands, and I haven't really been able to feel some of my fingertips since Christmas. Interesting that your DR said just a few weeks for this situation to resolve. Mine said a few months. If it's not cleared up in six months post-partum, I go to a specialist. If your DR is considering steroids, have you considered a second opinion? Steroids are pretty powerful.

    As for the braces, I'm supposed to be wearing mine but I don't. It's just too much of a hassle to wear them when b/f and taking care of baby. I figure whent he swelling goes down the situation will resolve itself, and if it doesn't then being frustrated over wearing braces on top of everything else won't have helped me psychlogically in the long run anyway.
    Fran
    Mom to Anna, March 28, 2008

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    Default Re: Frustrated please help!

    Fabmomma- It's annoying, huh? I'm happy to say that mine has been better since yesterday. It's not healed but it is improving. The carpal tunnel I can handle which it's not as bad as it was during pregnancy but the locking thumb junk just isn't cutting it. I have been icing it like crazy per dr orders and I can tell a difference. The tendinitis (locking thumb) is what he said should subside and of course if it doesn't I would get a second opinion. Since it is improving I'm optimistic this will clear up, my friends did anyway. My husband did go buy me a "breastfriend" nursing pillow which is AMAZING and has made nursing so much better. I'm still nursing what I think might be a plugged duct but things are so much better and my spirits are up again! My little one has a wonderful latch when I have hands that function properly.

    I hope yours get better. I agree the braces are a hassle. I haven't wore mine since yesterday and funny it's feeling better just nursing the bad wrist. Hm, who knows!!!

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    Default Re: Frustrated please help!

    I hear you! My wrists are bad too. Numbness in my fingers and arm weakness. I also recommend working on getting the pillows situated so you don't need to support her as much with your hands, and mixing it up a lot. I've heard that acupuncture can help, so I'm trying that next.

    In terms of the mastitis, the best treatment I've found is a super hot pad directly on the spot, for as long as you can stand it. Basically, give your boob a fever to cook out the infection. Then I hand express, back to front, slowly, over the infected spot to get any blockages or infected milk out.

    I was getting infection after infection until I started that method.

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    Default Re: Frustrated please help!

    Yay!!! I'm so glad to hear that things are going better today. Keep nursing that breast with the clogged duct...it's the best thing for it. I had one of those, too...got clogged all the time. Massage worked for me as did warm compresses. I have a buckwheat thing that I heat up in the microwave and put on my left breast. Works wonders. I read that you can make the same thing from a cotton sock and rice.

    Anyway, good job hanging in there. You're doing a great job, mama!
    Fran
    Mom to Anna, March 28, 2008

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    I was going to suggest as a pp did that you try the side lying position. I had a hard c-section recovery and couldn't support the weight of my LO and nursed hands free for almost the first 2 months. I used a pillow behind my back and a small pillow behind his bum and just used my hands to rub him or stroke him soft skin as he nursed.

    Good Luck! And congrats on your new addition.
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    Default Re: Frustrated please help!

    Thanks everyone for the support! The breast is still way tender but I put in a call to the MW today to see what she suggest as I read after 72 hours it's best to call the dr. It's been well over 72 hours at this point and no improvement and I've done all the tips LLL suggest and other sites...

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