I actually have two problems. First, Connor had major nursing issues at 4months because of reflux. He would only nurse in his sleep. We developed a bad habit of him being nursed to sleep for naps and throughout the night (we co-sleep). He still wakes up 45 minutes into his nap, and I nurse him back to sleep (every single nap). He also wakes up every 45 minutes when we put him down at night until we bring him in our bed when we go to sleep. I have to nurse him each time to get him to go back to sleep. We've tried other things, but he will just scream and cry until I hold him and he can nurse. Anyone have ideas on how to get him to fall asleep w/o nursing? He won't sleep even on long car rides.
Our other problem is that he wakes up all night long (between 8-12 times per night). I normally just let him nurse and he falls right back to sleep. But I am so exhausted. I just can't keep doing this every single night. Some nights he is so squirmy, I only get a few hours of sleep. He also needs to lay on top of me to fall back to sleep. Last night we tried to get him to go back to sleep w/o letting him lay on me and we were all up for 4 straight hours.
I love nursing him, but would like to gradually wean him. Because of his reflux he still doesn't eat solids very well though. So I guess I have two questions:
1) How can I get him to learn to fall asleep w/o nursing? (don't think I can have him cry it out too long).
2) How can I get him to sleep better at night? I don't think he actually gets much milk at night, just wants comfort.
Sorry so long!! Thanks in advance for any ideas!