Thank you all for the kind words and support.
I don't think she has a problem swallowing, I mean - she nurses just fine. Wouldn't she have difficulty nursing if she were having trouble swallowing? I know it is different motions (nursing/sucking and eating/swallowing). Sometimes she opens her mouth and accepts a spoon if there is food on it. I can sometimes get my finger in her mouth (with food on the tip of my finger) but that is getting more and more dangerous as she gets more teeth.
It seems to me that she is just rejecting anything that isn't mama's milk. She isn't fond of medicine, and we haven't had a need to give it to her really anyways. I think with the oragel it is the taste of it moreso than the fact that its something foreign in her mouth.
I have not tried giving EBM from a spoon - although that sounds like a super idea. I will do that tomorrow. Can't believe I didn't think of that sooner.
I am waiting to hear back from a few friends of friends, and will be attending a local LLL meeting on Friday to hopefully meet some like-minded mommys and get some pediatrician recommendations from them too.
Thank you all for the support - it is very encouraging to hear stories of others who nurse their babies for longer than what the "norm" is now in this country. I know I am doing the best I can for my baby, and that is all that matters.