Hi! I have been lurking and reading but haven't really jumped in to post yet. This is bound to be long, but I am a mess and upset and need some advice and hopefully some ammunition to arm myself against my current pediatrician.
My daughter just turned one (1/23) and is exclusively nursing. She shows no interest in food. I started introducing purees to her at about 7 months, let her play in the food, used a spoon, made it different textures and different consistency...still no interest. I didn't push it.
At about 9-10 months I let her start playing with finger foods, bits and pieces of what I was eating, while I was eating. I attempted purees about once a week, sometimes every 2 weeks, occasionally longer. She was still completely uninterested. Sometime around 11 months she started feeding ME her food. She knows that you are supposed to eat the food - she just doesn't eat it herself.
I swear she has radar - she is happy as a clam chewing on a spoon or her fingers or whatever as long as there isn't food on it. The second even the tiniest bit of food is on the spoon, she won't put it near her mouth.
All in all, she has had maybe a handful of small bites of food (sweet potatoes and applesauce were the ones that I had *some* success with). She has knawed on a few finger type foods (pizza crust, crispy bread crust, etc.) but if anything breaks off into her mouth she starts gagging until she can get it out of her mouth, or until I can sweep it out of her mouth.
We also stopped attempting to give her oral medicine (tylenol, even oragel) several months ago.
All in all, I just figured that she wasn't ready to start eating. She is 12 months old, well off the charts in height and weight and obviously thriving and not lacking nourishment.
Fast forward to last week...
Her pediatrician said that in order to get her to start eating solids, I should wean her - she will eat when she is hungry enough. That sounds like the dumbest thing ever to me.
Then today the pediatrician called and said that if she doesn't start eating in the next few weeks, to get back in touch with him to set up occupational therapy for her.
A few hours later, the nurse called and said that she had put my daughter on a waiting list (at the dr's suggestion) for an OT. I asked her if that wasn't a bit much and that I didn't think it was necessary at this point since she is not lacking in nourishment. She said that babies shouldn't be nursing at all at 12 months and should be eating whatever table foods they want. I told her that I had spoken with other mothers whose children nursed exclusively until 12, 15, 18, 20 months and they are just fine. She basically told me I was wrong (in a not-so-nice way).
THEN, about 30 minutes after that, another nurse called and told me that I need to be giving her vitamins (tri-vi-sol) daily since she isn't getting enough from me. I told her that I had not been doing that, and she (rudely) told me that I need to be.
So...now I am at a loss of what to do. I KNOW that I am not alone in this situation. I KNOW there are other babies out there who don't eat food and EBF for 12 months or longer.
I am actively looking for a new pediatrician now (we just got new insurance, thank god!) and am trying to find one who is more supportive of AP style parenting and especially supportive of breastfeeding. I have contacted a local LLL leader and am trying to get in touch with some other local AP moms from a local message board to find out about their pediatricians. Is there a list or guide somewhere that would point me in the right direction to find a new pediatrician who is more on the same page as me and my beliefs/parenting ideals?
I need reassurance. I need advice. I need some ammunition to help me support myself to my pediatrician. I need to know if there *could be* something wrong that an OT would help with.
Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for any replies. Sorry so long.