Re: Will she hate me
No, there's no way your child would ever hate you, so don't even worry about that. A YEAR of breastmilk is awesome and so much more than most babies ever get. You can always be proud of that wonderful gift you gave your baby.
Now, she might react negatively to a very aggressive weaning regimine, but that doesn't mean she hates you. Just that she's protesting what she sees as a denial of her needs/wants. You will need to replace those nursings with extra mommy time spent cuddling and playing so she doesn't feel like her "special" mommy time and closeness is being taken away along with her nursings. That can help to mitigate any negative reactions she may have.
When you say you want to wean at 1 year, do you mean you want to be totally weaned at one year OR begin the weaning process at one year? How long do you envision the whole process of weaning?
As for a "weaning plan," it depends on how often your daughter nurses and how much solids she is eating. I'd recommend checking out some books on weaning. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding has a section on weaning as well as a publication called "How Weaning Happens."
When doing mother-led weaning, a gradual approach is said to be best. Both for you and baby. That way your body slowly adjusts and gradually your supply will go down - avoid painful breasts and mastitis. And your daughter isn't overwhelmed or feeling rejected. Dropping one feeding at a time with at least a few days in between is a good way to go. Usually the bedtime nursing is the last one to go, so keep that in mind. And remember to always replace the nursing with something else like a special drink/snack/book/activity while cuddling on your lap or having your undivided attention. That way you and she are still being connected and having closeness without nursing.
Also, I think it's good to evaluate how you and baby are feeling at each step of the way during nursing. If you get your nursings down to 1 or 2 a day and feel comfortable with, you can maintain that for as long as you both want to. So, don't think that it's an "all or nothing" kind of thing. Remaining flexible and in tune with you and your baby's feelings and needs will allow you to cater your weaning journey to your situation.
Good luck and congrats on giving your baby the wonderful gift of a year of nursing!
Last edited by LaurasMom; May 9th, 2008 at 08:57 PM.
Mom to Laura (3/1/06)