My LO is almost four months old and I have been full-time cosleeping with him since he was about a month old, and before that it was almost full-time. At first, I was really uncomfortable with the idea, having heard time and time again how that is so dangerous. But when I heard about how so many other people do it and the potential benefits, I decided to just go with my deeper instincts and enjoy the coziness.
Now lately I have been wondering if I should put him in his crib. Not because I want to, but because I wonder if it might make my husband uncomfortable. Many nights during the week he is falling asleep downstairs in the recliner. He works late, he doesn't get out until almost 11:00, which by that point I am ready to call it a day (getting up with the baby by 6:00 in the morning). So anyway, I don't know if he is maybe worried about accidentally rolling on our baby. I am worried that this might be putting some strain on our relationship. My husband and I used to always cuddle in bed every night and now I am cudding the baby and putting a protective barrier between baby and him just in case (he is a bit of a deep sleeper). So maybe he feels pushed away.
It would be hard for me to put my LO back in his crib, even though his crib is only 3 feet away from my bed, because I don't want him to feel pushed away either. And don't get me wrong, I do miss cuddling with my husband as well (but we have so many years to do that, this time with baby comes and goes ). But, the best thing for our whole family would be for us all to be happy and together, so if that means putting our LO back in his crib, then I guess maybe I should. Has anyone had to make that transition, and do you have any tips on how to make it a gentle one? (if that's what it comes down to)