Ok, so I wasn't totally honest. This is how I controlled it. I started out by doing 6 hour blocks and gradually moved up to 12 hour blocks. I would start my block usually around 8 pm, for his first nighttime feed on my full left breast (my lower producer). In the am, around 6 am, my right was engorged so I pumped it dry (usually about 10 or 11 ounces). I then nursed on my right all day. If my left was full after I nursed him down on my mostly empty (after 12 hours of nursing exclusively on that side), I pumped my left empty, and began his first middle of the night feed on that side. I feed my dd the excess (started out being about 20 ounces and I am down to pumping 7 or 8). I initially froze what I wasn't using for her. She nurses 2 or 3 times a day, some days not at all and sometimes 6 or 7. So, now my routine is pretty much the same--nurse on the left all night long and the right all day long. If he is going through a growth spurt or teething, he might want the fuller left side at some point through the day. I gradually reduced the amount I was pumping, but 1 oz increments, but I can not for the life of me get below 7 or 8 a day now. I am uncomfortable and he chokes and wont' fall asleep if I try to go any lower. On the days dd nurses more, it sucks the following days because my supply is back up and I have to do something to reduce it, or suffer through it by pumping off the extra.
Have you tried sage? Cabbage?
It took me nearly 5 months to get to a point where I thought I had it figured out. It was miserable, but totally worth it now!!!