Re: tasting "non-baby" foods (like cake)
Don't let anyone push you into doing it if you aren't comfortable with it. My family did the same thing to me- sometimes I gave in and sometimes I stood my ground. I think it's up to you as the mama so decide when and if you should give her 'tastes.' If you need one, there is always the risk of allergies to give people as a reason not to let your lo taste, especially things like cake or ice cream, which have dairy and eggs and things like that.
It's not being mean, it's being careful. If they've never had it, they don't know you are denying them anything good, but I guarantee you once they taste it once, they'll want it every time they see it.
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