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    Default Do you tell your kid's ped about nursing?

    I was wondering how many mamas are totally honest with their kid's peds and extended nursing. I stopped telling my sons' doc about nursing when my first son was 15 months and had a stomach virus. His doc told me I had to "stop all milk" as well as juice, etc. I didn't ask about mommy milk because I knew from other comments that I'd be told to stop nursing - and I knew that I wasn't going to do that since my milk was the only thing he was eating/drinking.

    When my second son was 4 months old, his ped said "you can mix some cereal into his formula now". The doc was very surprised when I replied "he is still exclusively breastfed". He said, "oh, well, I guess you can pump some milk and feed cereal that way." I ignored his advice entirely.

    I don't want to go through the hassle of changing peds (I did it once already for different reasons and it took months to get the files) though I am also wondering when enough is enough. I like the rest of the staff and their offices are convenient.

    Thoughts? Experiences? Part of me wonders if I should be using this as a way to inform him? But I don't want to get into some weird power struggle with the doc.

    Siobhan

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    I think this partly depends on your doctor. In theory, I would say that we should all be honest and tell our peds about extended BF. Otherwise, it will perpetuate the notion that extended BF is abnormal and early weaning is the way to go. However, if I knew that I wasn't going to end up in a horrible argument or have my ped say awful things to me, I might be inclined to leave things out that he/she might find objectionable. I'm not very good at confrontation. When I get advice I don't really agree with, I just tend to smile and nod and then ignore it. Recently though I have gotten some suggestions to start "working on weaning" or "replace a couple feeds with milk in a cup" (my DS is 2 years old. I have replied that I'm not interested in weaning at this time, that I feel continued nursing is still good for him. Then I've said that instead I am planning to work on night weaning (which is true) but that I'd rather keep the day nursings.

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    I told a specialist and she told me that breastmilk after 6 months was no good and that I needed to wean my dd or she was going have problems..
    IT was sort of funny as we were walking out, my hubby said did you listen to anything after she said your milk was no good? Answer NOpe.....
    waist of time and $$$$...

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    My DD's would nurse at the pedi's ofc until they weaned, really, so I didn't have to tell her they were still nursing...

    She never expressed any positive or negative opinions on the subject, but my kids' medical records speak volumes.

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    I was always upfront with our doctor -- since we moved here (when DS was 9 months old), we've all gone to one family practice physician. She needed to know that I was still nursing as a part of my own health portrait -- when/whether to schedule a mammogram, that kind of thing.

    It was clear to me that EBF was not something our doctor saw often if at all in her patients, but I had determined early on that she was open to being educated and to discussing matters openly with me as a team member more than an authority figure, so I did not have any hesitation about sharing that information with her.

    I shouldn't generalize from this one doctor, but I think the family practice association has a better approach to breastfeeding than the AAP does, and I certainly never got the kinds of misinformation and subtle sabotage regarding breastfeeding from our FP doc that I got from DS's first pediatrician (and which I hear echoed here so often). Also, since breastfeeding is a relationship that involves two people in the family, it makes a lot of sense to me to get our medical care from someone who can examine and treat us both. We never had thrush, but if we had, we could have diagnosed and treated both of us in one office visit with one doc, instead of chasing around town trying to see both a pediatrician and and OB/GYN or PCP and just hoping that they would agree on a treatment approach for both of us.

    Great story about our FP doc -- the first time I had a routine physical with her, we had scheduled it back-to-back with Michael's 18mo well-child visit. I didn't have anyone to watch him during my exam, so he was in the room when she started my breast exam. Predictably, at the sight of my breasts, he wanted to nurse. Our doc was vaguely flabbergasted but totally went with the flow, and when she was done with one side we just convinced Michael to switch sides. The doc was laughing, and said that it was just a good thing I wasn't due for a pelvic that day!

    --Rebecca

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    Default Re: Do you tell your kid's ped about nursing?

    we also go to a FP and love him. He is from holland and treats everyone in our family from DS's great grandfather and great grandmother (when she was alive), his aunt and uncle, dh, ds, and me. He is well aware of our nursing relationship and of our desire for natural weaning and supports us. I agree with Rebecca that the FP stance on nursing is better, IMHO, and they do tend to look at the WHOLE picture. I also like that he knows a lot of our family medical history to help him assess situations, especially our heart condition.
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    Just wanted to share that my FP doc said at DD's 12 month check up- "There's no need to wean if you don't want to at this point." Yay Doc!

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    I hate to admit that I was *almost* embarrrased to admit to our ped that I was still BFing at my daughter's 15 mos check up. I was more afraid of his reaction, and I didn't want to have to get angry with him and find a new ped, because I like him. Much to my surprise he was a bit shocked (you can tell he doesn't see it often) but basically told me that it was great and there wasn't a great need to worry about other liquids. I had asked if water, my breastmilk, and her 70% water/30% juice blend was enough
    "variety" or if there was something else I should give her. I was very happy when I walked out of there. It was great to know he wasn't someone who would look at me like I had 3 heads when I said I was still BFing and planned on weaning naturally.

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    I am usually nursing at the peds office. She says she thinks its great, and that she rarely sees a mom nurse past 6 months. She asked if I was giving her cows milk at all, I said No of course. She said thats fine, to just make sure she gets a little extra calcium from other sources, like chees, yougart, and we found out that eggo waffels have lots of calcium ! So far she has been very encouraging about my nursing, wish I could say the same for family, friends, and the dentist.

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    So far, I've been honest with our Pediatrician about nursing my daughter. She's nearing 23 months though and he has made comments several times about weaning before it'll become impossible. Right now, I have no desire to force weaning.

    Granted, there are times (nights mainly) when I think I might want to consider stopping, but for the most part I enjoy the closeness it brings and so does my baby.

    I don't know if I'll admit continuing breastfeeding at her 2 year check-up if he doesn't ask. If he does, I'll have no choice but to be honest. I don't have a very good poker face. LOL.

    It's sad though, that in today's world we feel that we have something to be embarrassed about when we are only doing what is natural. I have no support from most of my family and friends. My husband is wonderful though, so that's great.

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