I am desperate. I have a 12 day old little boy who I have been exclusively breast feeding up until about day 10. He never really latched on well in the hospital, but I have tons of milk and an overactive let down, so it seems if I just hold him close enough to my breast, he gets enough to eat, and we get enough pee and poop diapers to make everybody happy. Everybody but me, because I know he's not latching.
I had a lactation consultant who came to my house yesterday. Of course, while she was here, the baby did beautifully, and he latched on for a very good feeding. I even managed to get a few good sessions in with him yesterday afternoon. But when night rolled around, everything went south. Everything seemed wrong. I couldn't get my hands right, I couldn't get pillows positioned in the right places, etc.
I am basically having to do this on my own. My husband is totally over this whole breast feeding experiment and ready to start formula. Unfortunately, I need a second set of hands to help me get in position, but except for when the lc was here yesterday actually physically positioning the baby for me, I have not had that help and am not likely to get it. My husband does not understand why it takes two people to nurse the baby and in fact says it does not take two people to nurse the baby. He is totally frustrated and it is beginning to wear on me, too.
To top things off, both the baby and I have thrush. While the baby's thrush seems resolved, I still have very painful nipples. I'm being treated, but it doesn't seem all that helpful and in any event there's not much I can do about until Monday when the doc is back in his office.
I don't know what to do at this point. I called the lc this morning to explain the problems I was having and she wants me to keep trying until this afternoon. Of course, I will do that, but in the meantime, I've been trying to give him bm in a bottle, which is also not going well. How much should he be taking in a bottle? Also, I don't think the latching thing is going to get better without some more hands on coaching but there is no way my husband will agree to pay to bring the lc back out to the house. He's already counting the money we've "wasted" on this project.
Basically, I have no support. Everyone wants me to do something different. All the medical professionals seem to agree that the baby still needs to be fed every 2-3 hours, but my husband and parents and in laws are beside themselves that we are waking up the baby to feed him and everyone is urging me to let the baby sleep until he wakes up hungry. I am saying "no" but I cannot explain to their satisfaction why this is not a good idea.
I also cannot explain to my husband why I am having so many problems and none of our friends who successfully breast fed had any similar problems. For that matter, I can't even really explain that to myself.
I guess the bottom line is, I desperately want this to work, but everyone at my house is miserable. I have to go back to work in 5 weeks and I would really like to enjoy this time instead of crying all the time which is what is currently happening. I also have a nearly 3 year old little boy who is being so good about the new baby, but I cannot realistically expect him to entertain himself while I spend the majority of my time practicing with the baby.
Finally, the lc told me this morning that I would be gambling with SIDS if we do switch from bm to formula. This seems like a pretty insensitive thing to say. Am I really putting the baby at risk by giving him formula instead of bm?
To all or any of you who made it through this entire post and have any advice to offer I will be extremely grateful. I feel all alone and very sad and will appreciate anything anyone wants to offer by way of advice, suggestions, your own experience, etc.