Re: Wanting to throw in the towel with BF
I know how you feel. The beginning is really hard. I stopped nursing my daughter when she was about 6 weeks old because it become so painful and stressful for me. With my son, I had a really good lactation consultant, who helped guide me. I had a rough start with him, but he is now 1 year old and we just weaned. It's hard to imagine going that long when you are in the stage you are in. In fact, while I've had an amazing nursing relationship with my son, I am not really looking forward to the beginning stage of nursing the next one (I'm pregnant). Everyone is right...it does get soooo much better. My son also nursed for an hour each time. I decided to pump exclusively, which helped. With my daughter, I was like you - I could hardly get 1 whole ounce the whole day put together! I know I was extremely stessed, which can make getting a let down hard. Do you have good swaddling blankets? When the lactation consultant showed me how to properly swaddle my son, it made all the difference in the world. everytime he would get fussy, I would swaddle him and he would almost immediately calm down. Maybe you should try that? The bottom line is, a healthy and happy mama is the best thing for your baby. I applaud you for giving it your best. If you are going to regret giving it, then hang in there. With my daughter, I felt relief when I decided to stop (with a little bit of guilt) because I was just an absolute mess (I had post partum depression), but with my son, I felt so proud that I made it through the struggles and acheived a successful breastfeeding relationship. You have to do what works for your family. If you're really stressed out and need a break, try giving a formula bottle here and there (not everyone is going to agree with this idea, but as long as it doesn't seem to upset the baby's stomach to switch back and forth, then it should be fine - maybe check with your pediatrician first). Good luck!!!
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