Sorry to hear about your troubles! Many of us have been there.
from Hunger cues-- when to feed the babyEarly
Smacking or licking lips
Opening and closing mouth
Sucking on lips, tongue, hands, fingers, toes, toys, or clothing
Rooting around on the chest of whoever is carrying him
Trying to position for nursing, either by lying back or pulling on your clothes
Fidgeting or squirming around a lot
Hitting you on the arm or chest repeatedly
Fussing or breathing fast
Moving head frantically from side to side
Really you want to try to catch her at the early signs. This might mean you're nursing much, much more frequently than you ever imagined would be necessary. And this might last a few weeks. If you just give in to it, and remind yourself that it's temporary, you might better be able to enjoy this extremely brief period of time.
It definitely gets easier for both mom and baby with time and practice. Given enough time and effort virtually all healthy babies can learn to nurse from the breast. Giving a bottle at this point is counter-productive and should be avoided especially if you're having latch issues.Is latching on something that just comes with time or if you can't get them to latch you might have to stop breastfeeding?
You'll both get the hang of it. It's the most natural act in the world, but unfortunately it doesn't always come naturally. The good news is that the beginning weeks are by far the hardest part. I was convinced that I'd NEVER like breastfeeding, and I just kept slogging through because I didn't have the heart to quit. I was completely wrong. I'll be grateful and amazed that I didn't give up until the day I die. I "hated" nursing for 6 or 7 weeks. And then the rest of it I totally loved. To think I could've missed out on the good part of breastfeeding is a horrible thought to me now.I guess that's my question for the whole breastfeeding journey...is it just that it takes a while for the two of us to "match up" so to speak and all of these latching, preferential feeding sides will likely improve?
The sacrifices of parenthood start right away. But in the end they're far, far more important in the long run than the enjoyment of the newborn most of us dreamed of when we were pregnant.