I am so sorry you thought that I was offended! I was out of town for vacation and as much as we try to have all of the forums covered, alas some just slip through the cracks. My apologies!
I find it interesting that dd is passing "soft blobs" of poop, but still straining. Again, I know I am beating a dead horse here, but constipation is when the bm's are hard and dry. So really, the only true symptom of constipation she has is the straining.
Here is some info I found on Dr. Sears' website. Not LLL, but it may help.
I would still consider dd a "baby". She just turned 2 and is not getting all or even most of her nutrition from solids. So she is more like a baby in that respect.
I am sorry you are still feeling stressed about this. Please let us know how you and dd are doing.
How old is your ds?
Going 5 days between bm's is not a symptom of constipation, as you probably already read. Symptoms are straining, seeming to be in pain, hard dry stools. It is well within the range of normal for a bf baby to go several days without a bm.