DS is 17.5 months old and has recently started to refuse to nurse. It's not as though he was nursing a lot...only twice per day, but both of those times were 15-30 minutes in length. For about a week he was very adamant (pulling at my shirt, mouthing me as I was opening up my bra, etc.) about nursing and of course I let him nurse for as long as he wanted. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, he went to bed for the first time without nursing before and slept normally (he bit me three times when I tried to nurse him, so I took that as a cue that he didn't want to) to my BIG surprise! Then we were on vacation this past weekend and every time I tried to nurse him he looked at me and said (and signed), "All done." and then asked for his pacifier. He's not really using the pacifier any more than he used to, so I don't think it's really substituting. He used to nurse then have the pacifier when he was finished. I thought maybe it was the different environment, but he didn't nurse last night when we got back either. He is teething (two year molars already), but he's always wanted to nurse MORE when he's teething, not less.
So, it's been 4 days since he nursed, and I didn't have a pump with me, so it's been 4 days since any milk has been removed from my body. Physically I'm having NO engorgement or discomfort despite that fact, so I'm wondering if he was really taking all that much milk anyway.
Any thoughts on whether he is really self-weaning? I'm just torn about whether I should try to pump to keep my supply up just in case this is only a strike. Everything I read says that they don't self-wean until 18-24 months and it's gradual. He's close to 18 months and was down to two feedings a day...does that count as gradual? Just feeling a little confused right now about what's going on and what I should do about it...and a little bit sad that this might be ending! Thanks for any insight!