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I am so confused! How on earth did everyone get to the point where they have twiddling toddlers?? Really no one had a child that was driving them batty with this in the 1st year? My thoughts to the original poster were "WOW how lucky you are that you got to 21 months before it became an issue!" But then so MANY of you showed up....I feel a little silly saying this but I got DJ a nursing necklace to redirect to when he was very young and actually caused stress induced psoriasis when he was about 6months old.
And my advice is if you having someone starting to fiddle, get a nursing necklace and the sooner the better. Because it DOES become something they need as much as the nursing and it becomes very hard to redirect. Much like thumb sucking or hair twiddling. And the longer you allow it the worse it gets. But with a nursing necklace not only is there something to play with, but you can talk about it too! The things that are on it and the colors and the different textures! I loved mine. We don't need it anymore. He outgrew the need to twiddle. But he still loves his necklace! Anyone who wants more info on one can PM and I'll tell you where I got mine!
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Hate to be discouraging! My 3 year old twiddles the other nipple. I HATE IT!!
It's not so bad during the day when I have a bra on. At night though!
I have to sleep with one hand over the other boobie.
I do talk to her about it though. Sometimes we end up nearly wrestling LOL.
Nursing necklace! I never had heard of that before!!
Good lord, I can't believe some of these LOs have pulled skin off! Mine were both biters from an early age so I have a very low threshold for any kind of bad nursing etiquette. I broke them of the biting by unlatching them when they did it, and that worked very well for the hitting/scratching/gouging etc. along with redirection when that came up later on. They were doing it to me as well as each other. We play finger games, they handle toys, squirm around, practice the "milk" sign, I tickle their feet, play with a blanket, lots of things to redirect them. At this point the most they'll do is slap my stomach with an open hand, and I redirect that to the furniture. When it comes down to it they like nursing and will behave to get it, you have the right to instill some manners.
That's what I do when he's annoying me. He thinks it's hysterical for me to pretend bite his hands/feet. Most of the time I just let the twiddling go though unless he's hurting me. He really seems to need the security of having both nipples accounted for. It's weird, but he gets very distressed sometimes if I hide the other one or don't let him touch it. Though in public, I try to keep it to a minimum. Most of the time when I'm out I'm nursing him in my wrap, so he's tummy to tummy and not all handsy.
some of your stories are really discouraging!
but thanks for the honesty!
i can not imagine my son making me bleed or ripping of moles while nursing,
it seems like such a negative behavior to overshadow such a loving one.
i agree that distracting early can help the habit not form.
i wish i had done this,
the reason that i didn't is b/c i am a minimalist and the idea of having to have a nursing necklace to nurse wasn't something i wanted to do.
the same reason i don't have a breast pump or lots of stuff marketed to parents.
to me, less is more.
now i'm regretting not using a nursing necklace b/c my son twiddling that rather than me sounds wonderful!
i have been being consistent and firm about twiddling and even though he still does it, it has been getting progressively better everyday.
My absolute favorite is when he sticks his toe in my ear, or kicks me in the head, or rams a toy car up my nose.
oh boy - we've got this going on right now too. dd always twiddles the opposite nipple, especially when she is going to sleep. last night she pinches me with her fingernails and cut my nipple ouch! if i try to keep her hands away she throws a huge fit and takes much longer to get to sleep. ugh.
OMG! I'm not alone!
My 23 month old does this all the time.. She likes to run her fingers in my hair and put her hand between my breast and her mouth and pull... UGH!
thank you for reassuring me that I'm not actually going crazy.. but have kindered spirits out there!
this doesnt work at night...but during the day, when ds reaches up to get my armpit, i go right after his....as soon as he lifts his arm i stick my finger in his armpit like im going to tickle him.....i dont even tickle, just the threat of having my finger there bothers him enough....he still reaches but usually stops after a few times when he realizes im not going to stop
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