Re: Baby cries constantly while I'm away
That sounds like it's hard on all of you. A crying baby all night is just hard to deal with.
There are things that other mothers have found that can help in these kind of situations. Many have found that it takes around two weeks for everyone to settle into the new routines, learn each others' cues, and generally get used to the new schedule.
Perhaps having DH hold and comfort him even when you're there during the rest of week will allow Daddy and baby to learn how to comfort each other?
Is your baby eating at all while you're gone? Is he terribly hungry, and crying from hunger? Offering a feeding before baby gets totally upset often works better than waiting til he's wailing.
He can also vary where and how he feeds baby - laying in bed together, so baby drifts off to sleep at the end of a feeding, or walking around, or rocking in a chair, curled up on the couch together, whatever works.
You mentioned that DH has asked you to consider weaning. Please remember that each child is different, with their own personality, needs, and wants, and that you two as parents are doing many things different with this child than you did with your older child. The reasons for this current upset are many, and only baby knows what's really wrong. Weaning in the middle of another transition may just make the whole thing more difficult.
With patience and time, mothers have found that babies can and do adjust to their new schedule eventually. Some babies are just more stubborn than others when it comes to change.
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