Re: husband getting iffy
I think that husbands have a definite right to express how they feel about weaning and other breastfeeding issues, but I think the final say-so comes down to the mother. After all it is her health that is at issue as well as the child. In the same way that I don't think a husband should force his wife to take birth control if I she doesn't want it or force her to get pregnant if she doesn't want to be, I don't think he should force her to wean. I do think he deserves to be heard, though, since I see parenting as a partnership.
I recently had a conversation with my husband about this issue. I had picked up on some frustration from him concerning sleep problems and the fact that he feels a little left out sometimes. I interpreted some of his comments and frustration to mean that he wanted me to wean and I was mad at him. once we started talking about it, though, he assured me that he wants me to breastfeed as long as I want, and although he does get frustrated and left out sometimes it doesn't mean he's not supportive of what I'm doing. I can live with that.
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