Re: Ist time BF w/ toddler at home
First off, !! It's going to be ok! You are doing GREAT with what you have done thus far!! You are way ahead of the game and you deserve many, many kudos for all of the prep you have done!!
Anyway! I have two kids. My oldest was 4 y.o. when my second was born 7 months ago. I, too, was very nervous about how I was going to divide my attention! I will be honest, it was kinda tough at first! He was so used to getting 100% of my attention 100% of the time! We read a lot of books and watched some movies about being a big brother and what it would be like with a new baby. He was so excited, but he thought his new baby brother should come out and be ready to play!!
So, I am very thankful that I had so much support from my parents! I don't know what I would have done without them to be honest!! Someone suggested to me to get DS1 his own "baby" before the new baby was born. This way he could "wear," change and feed his baby while he saw me doing these things with the new baby. I even bought him his own little Moby wrap!
He has never been jealous of DS2 much to my surprise, but he has been craving attention. I found myself snapping at him sometimes do to sheer exhaustion. But, then I had to remind myself, that this was not his fault and he does not understand. So, I would sit on the floor with him and play a board game while nursing the baby or have both of them on my lap and read him a story. When you do have help (SO, friends, other family) I would feed the baby, and then hand her off to someone so that you can have some time with your DS. Just you and him. It doesn't have to be that you are leaving the house, just even going back in his room and reading him stories or playing games or painting. I'm sorry! I hope this helps some! I feel like I have rambled on! There are some FABULOUS mamas on here that have BTDT that should be able to give you awesome advice!!!