My little guy is only 6.5 months but he's refusing the breast and I'm not sure if he's weaning or quasi-striking . My first child went on stike at 5.5 months and although I did everything I could to get her to come back, I finally decided after 6 weeks of rejection that it was time to stop. But things have been more gradual with my new little guy. It started a few weeks ago with arching during burping, then he started arching sometimes after or during feedings, and now he's started refusing the breast. He became really really distractable at 6 months, so I try to feed him in a very quiet place. But he has been refusing the breast even in total silence the last couple of days. Now I'll roam the house and try different places and positions to feed him and sometimes he'll get distracted by something and actually feed for a bit and then it's like he realizes what he's doing and pushes me away again. He'll still eat just before bed, although not until he realizes that I'm serious about putting him down and then realizes that he's too hungry for me to leave. Then he'll eat a bit with me leaning over the crib (my back!), a bit on his change table, maybe a bit in the rocking chair, but every time he needs to burp it's a struggle to cajole him back. So far, the dream feed is still a blissful time, and the last two nights he has woken up for a feeding more than once, to make up for the food he's not getting during the day, so at least he's getting the food, but I'm not getting sleep and he's not getting it during the day when he needs it.
I try to keep the mood light and play with him and have lots of eye and skin contact, but he just playfully bites me or pushes me away or arches. But he's not screaming and looking at me with horror, like my first did when she had her strike. I'm worried he may have reacted badly to me getting firm with him about biting, which I think was a few days ago. He was getting pretty bad, with frequent biting, so I told him NO several times. I've since read that even though this is the recommended way to deal with biting, that it can cause nursing strikes.
We've just recently started solids, and I'm not sure how much of a role that has played, but we really reduced them today so that he wouldn't fill up on them.
I haven't needed to pump yet, and I'm afraid that if I do, the milk won't be there when he does want to feed, but he's not getting as much as he normally would and I'm not sure if I should be pumping - it doesn't work very well for me except first thing in the morning. I actually tried pumping yesterday afternoon, but got only 1 oz after 30 minutes.
He still doesn't have any teeth and has been drooling constantly for the last few months, but I can't feel any buds.
As you can see, I've thought about all sorts of things that might be causing this behaviour. My formerly totally mellow little guy has turned into a crying, arching hungry little guy, and I don't know what to do. Has anyone else experienced this behaviour? What do you think - have I just made him scared with the No's, and introduced too many solids at the same time, or are these indications that he is an early weaner? I really want to keep going, but I'm not sure he does.