I have been wanting to write to you for awhile, but haven't had time! It sounds like I wrote your log. I also cosleep away from my husband...glad I am not the only one. I also nursed my son all of the time and was so tired all of the time for three and a half years. I had no energy to night wean..the one that I only really felt was okay to do for him...until I had to for many reasons(marriage...)
I also felt like I had chronic fatigue syndrome...
Anyways, I will email you more when I have more time...but I did one session in the middle of the night at a time...cuddles instead or read. we read and read and read and cuddled..still cuddles instead of nursing.
Will post more for you in a few days...
you are not alone! You are a Very loving mother and are giving your very best, including your self to your child.
Does anyone out there feel this way?
Is it okay to just quit?
I have heard from many moms that when they are feeling this way, that it actually helps to pick a few days where they let the LO nurse as much as they want to. It seems that when there isn't a struggle from the mom's side that the babe tends to ease up on their demands.
Quitting cold turkey is never recommended, for mom or baby. I hope others have more advice for you.
Wow...I am so sorry I haven't replied earlier. We had our final weaning and have been going to psychologist and dealing with the after effects, marriage stress..the holidays...so sorry!
I had the exact feelings you are having...I feel like moving away...taking a long vacation and forgetting about all of this...Of course I couldn't do that. Not fair for my son.
Your son needs you to be strong and in control. I hated to hear this but I guess they do..that just means gently weaning him at a slow pace in my mind. You are being gentle but doing what is best for the two of you. I took one weaning at a time and discussed it with him that mommy needs to sleep and it is good for you to learn to sleep without nursing also(really positive although I wasn't feeling it b/c I didn't want to go through the grief of it...it is a loss). So I wore an excercise bra and was ready for the struggle and crying...I really prepared myself but told myself that I had to do it or my husband would take him away. The middle of the night wasn't so bad b/c they don't remember as much the next day. That helped me with the night weaning. I read some of the LL weaning books and got the idea for the bra. He did tug and he did struggle but he was okay with the middle of the night and slept better after awhile. The hardest was the last..the wake up...
TOo bad I couldn't talk to you ..if you want to call me or have me call you I would be happy to talk to you. It would be easier for us to talk maybe. I don't have a clear rememberance of all of that since I have major issues going on with other stuff.
I will send you my info via private message.
Hang in there...This too shall pass.
Okay, in all honesty I'm having my own nighttime weaning issues. See my post for today. But I was wondering about the afternoon nap your son takes. If my 18 month old sleeps past 3 in the afternoon certainly past 4, she has alot more trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep at night. Regarding the times you unlatched him and he throw a fit and it took you more than 2 hours to put him back to sleep. Have you tried the 3 night method. Maybe you can try it when hubbys home or with your Mom. That it takes 3 nights of doing the same thing before they get the hang of it. At the most maybe he will not throw as big a fit has he has been.
Oh yes and one other thing, I introduced a sippy cup for all times I'm nursing her to sleep. If I remember even sometimes when I am just nursing. At first she was INSULTED by the mear fact that I would expect her to drink from a cup, but after about a month she started to do sippy, then Mom then sippy. Now our going to bed ritual includes, blanket, sippy, and Mom. And I"m working to reduce the Mom part of the equation. But one other big difference is our daughter sleeps in her own bed. Maybe you should start working for that transition? At least it woudl get you back with hubby. Which it sounds, (and I completely understand) that you feel that bf has taken up too much of you as an individual, and you want some of YOURSELF back. At least enough to get a better nights sleep.
Last edited by Cipri; January 14th, 2008 at 03:04 PM.
I posted this same set of questions to another mom on this forum.Have you talked with your lactation nurse? Or if you live in a city where you can speak to a La Leche League specialist? We don't have a LLL person in our town, but our lactation nurse at the hospital where our daughter was born,has been extremely helpful, even with weaning issues.
How are things now?
My son is now 26 months and it has gotten even worse. He is waking up from naps now to nurse, whereas before he slept like a log for 2 hours. He now wants to hold my nipple in his mouth all night while sleeping. If I try to gently remove it, he goes ape&*%^! He screams like he is being beaten. I am too tired to do anything about it. Everyone had nice suggestions like books and letting him nurse whenever (already does), and I have no energy to implement anything. I have an older child in school that I have to take care of as well. My husband can help me on June 9th through June 13th, but i am not sure what we will even do. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks!
Still really, really tired.....................