If you were able to successfully establish a bf relationship with your baby, will you please tell me HOW?
My son was born 8 weeks early, and he just came home on Friday at 36 weeks gestational age. My first son, who is now 3, was entirely breastfed and never had a bottle and I was hoping to do the same with #2, but he came home from the NICU as a bottle-fed baby. I have been putting him to the breast every chance I get, but he hasn't quite got the hang of it and I need to supplement him with the bottle after we try nursing for a little while. He HAS gotten a little bit better in the past few days, but the biggest challenge I am facing is that he doesn't open his mouth very wide so he doesn't latch on all that well most of the time. Many times he just gets frantic and starts hyperventilating and putting his hands and arms in the way. When he does get on, he usually gives up on sucking within about 10 minutes, and it's questionable as to how much of the sucking is actually nutritive.
Did you face any of the same challenges? How long after your baby's actual due date was it before you were able to wean your baby from the bottle? Was it just a matter of patience and persistence before the baby finally got the hang of nursing, or did you have some special techniques that you used to help the baby out?
If you have any tips or suggestions, I would really appreciate it. It's really tough to nurse then bottlefeed then pump throughout the day when I have a 3-year-old to care for as well. So besides really wanting to have a breastfeeding relationship with my new baby, I also need to make it happen in order to be able to provide both of my boys with the attention and care that they need and deserve. Otherwise I'm afraid that I'll have to call it quits.
Thank you so much for any suggestions you might have!